
I used to have something called a “league of greed”. It detailed every single thing I wanted, and put them in the order I wanted with the price next to everything. At the bottom was a total, which at times was unattainable, and at other times just represented a hell of a lot of potential credit card debt. I never took that plunge because it didn’t seem wise, especially as many of the things were electronics or transport, both of which tend to depreciate much faster than debts.
A side effect of having league of greed was that it made me unhappy when it reached into the unattainable - either I was looking too many years ahead, my income had just gone down for a while, or I was putting things on the list that were a little bit crazy. Eventually I tore it up, forgot about most of the things on it, and found that I was much happier as a result.
At several points in my life I’ve learned that having a comfortable income means being able to easily buy shit I don’t need. That lesson needed hitting home a lot harder in my late teens, nowadays even a t-shirt I don’t wear often makes me think about it. I like to travel very light nowadays too (i.e. a change of clothes, money and a camera phone if I can get away with so little), but used to carry large heavy bags everywhere and have trouble closing them.
In the past few months I’ve been on a major stuff purge, because the less I have, the happier I get. Owning stuff has cognitive overheads, mainly in various ways of remembering and maintaining it. Even getting rid of things is difficult unless you just dump them in the bin. I basically still have 1.5 cubic metres of stuff that has to be apportioned to charity shops, ebayed, given away, and chucked. Getting rid of things properly is effort, though luckily I’ve never been over the event horizon some hoarders I’ve known have passed, where getting rid of stuff seems like more trouble than living with clutter.
I’m becoming the exact opposite of a hoarder.
In the era of the web, being able to look at something online is often enough for me. The existence of something as media can be sufficient. To have and to hold is not something I require of most things, and this has drastically changed my buying patterns over the past few years. Every time I consider buying a thing, I contemplate the overheads of owning it. I wonder if I really want it. I wonder if I’ll still want it in a month. Like a window shopper, I repeatedly go back to look at it, but each repeat visit is more likely to reduce my desire than increase it.
There are of course still things I want and will have to save for, and it’s not like I never make impulse buys or have indulgences. I don’t keep track of unfulfilled material desires with a “league of greed” anymore though. What I do have is a constantly shifting “league of contemplation”; bookmarks for things I might buy but probably won’t waste my money on. The things I do buy are tending to be a small number of things I love, rather than more things I like or many I just find acceptable. Things are much better this way.
(CC image by Holla, It’s Jillian)